Don’t Be Slave To Your Anger, Control It

Anger is an intense emotion. You often do not control the origin of anger. However, the elaboration, manner of expressing and behavior and strategy to deal with anger is. Anger is rudely said extreme violent outrage that incites action and can manifest itself in aggression, fighting spirit, tantrums, urge to destroy or defuse etc. Ways to control outbursts, tips and tricks on how to manage anger, you can read in this article.

Emotion and feeling
What people generally agree on is that anger (rage, becoming ferocious) is an emotion that is more extreme and more violent than anger. That anger is more of a feeling. Anger can also be an accumulation or accumulated anger. Anger is a strong emotion, an incentive or urge that encourages the desire to take action, such as, e.g. erupt, destroy or defuse, which in anger does not necessarily have to be the case. In the tips below, both the term anger and anger will be used, as the tips focus on anger that can be a forerunner, a signal or can accumulate, degenerate into anger (outbursts).

Accept that Anger can come into you
Accept anger. You do not have to feel inferior or bad because or when you are angry. In principle, anger also comes with it. Just try to do something else than throw it out and see it as energy that can be run smoothly. Do not judge your anger in itself, but focus your attention on the way of expressing.

Count to 10 to postpone your angry reaction

Try to delay your anger that can lead to anger or anger by counting up to 10. It sounds very simple, but it works if you make it your own. Start in yourself to count 10 (10 seconds) and focus on this too. If this succeeds, try to count to 20 and later to 30, 1 minute or longer. If you do this seriously and consistently, you will notice the effect. You then experience that you do to master properly.

Take time out
If this is difficult to do in the beginning for you in the presence of the other person, it is best to leave the room, just leave and cool down in a different room or room by counting down, taking a cooling down or time out. This way it is easier to focus on this, if only because you shield yourself from the radiation, facial expression, gestures or non-verbal communication, body language or signals from the other person (who can sometimes summon or aggravate anger).

High by a simple but very effective Breathing trick
A breathing exercise that can be performed very quickly and also works very quickly is the next. Breathe through your nose for seven counts. Hold your breath for 5 seconds (solid) and then slowly and evenly exhale through your mouth (with the lips tingled). You will find that you become a bit dizzy and you feel a lot more relaxed. It causes a ‘high feeling’. You could say a ‘natural high’. This breathing trick also works in tension, stressful situations, nervousness, anxiety, anxiety, panic and the like.

Provide a Physical outlet valve or Physical exercise
Think of kicking against something (an object, in which you do not hurt or run up yourself). Or punch and punch in a pillow or mattress. Some people benefit from a boxing ball to discharge negative energy or to cool anger. You can also, e.g. doing push-ups or walking or sprinting, running. In any case, find a physical expression that comes with fits you and what you have something to offer. A popular way is to hit doors; however, this is not sufficiently expressive, i.e. you do not discharge your energy enough. It must be a physical effort or a vigorous exercise, if it wants to discharge your accumulated energy and channel it immediately, without things going wrong or harming others (or yourself) or hurting yourself.

Try to find the cause of your anger
If there is no acute anger, try to find out what makes it happen, what or what situation exactly makes you angry. You go a long way further if you know or can identify the cause, or the stimuli that trick anger or anger. Are there patterns or similarities in moments, reactions and approaches of others to you or events that arouse your rage? Is there a specific pattern or a red thread? It can help to write down your anger outbursts for a while, keep track of how you reacted and why. It helps you to get an idea of how often, when it happens and whether you still find a justified reaction afterwards.

Overrun with grief
Realize that behind / under anger or anger are sometimes fear, sadness, pain, painful experiences and memories, feelings of powerlessness or insecurity, weak spots, sensitivity or vulnerability, etc. that you do not want, can or dare to feel and with aggression, defenses or anger covered or shouted over.

Also look at any physical causes of your anger
It often happens that anger, aggression, tantrums or anger outbursts are thought to be related to someone’s nature, personality or character. However, this does not always have to be the case. Certain physical conditions can underlie aggression, anger and anger. Although there are countless health problems or disorders may play a role, it might be good to see if you have, e.g. suffered from a disturbed hormone system or that your blood sugar level is not up to standard.

Possible Causes
Excessive irritability, aggressive behavior, sudden anger outbursts can sometimes have to do with, e.g. intolerance or allergy to certain foods or nutrients, hormone problems, hypoglycemia, chronic stress or burnout.

Have a little more Confidence in your fellow man
Do not be too quick to question the motives and intentions of others. People, who flash quickly, become furious, are often suspicious of people and feel quickly attacked as a result. A milder view of people can increase your ability to collect. Do not think in advance that people are angry.

Expectations of the other
Do not set your expectations of others too high, be realistic. People differ from each other. Otherwise (than you expect or know) does not necessarily mean wrong or bad. People can sometimes respond negligently, naively or “stupidly” and can say painful things, without them intending to do so, or to seek to hurt or attack you. They are often entirely unaware that their reaction can be hurtful or painful for the other.

Take responsibility for your Emotion yourself
If you continually blame others for your anger, tantrums or anger outbursts, then nothing changes at all. Also, an excellent slayer with which you fool not only the other person but also yourself is the familiar phrase: “I am just like that”. With this, you think you have a license or excuse for your behavior and reactions, and you flee for your responsibility. Only when you take responsibility for your reaction and behavior, your anger or anger, is there something to do with it.

Constructive reaction
Moreover, if someone tells you the truth, you may experience it as offensive – because that is why you would get angry listening to what is being said. Maybe you can take advantage of it. Perhaps it is a weak spot or weak side of yourself that is susceptible to change or improvement. And you get angry because someone shoots in the rose or puts the finger on the sore spot. If you learn to look differently at criticism or comment from the other person on you, you can perhaps indicate a constructive, positive turn to tackle or improve something in yourself.

Tips and tricks on how others deal with their Anger
Try to surround yourself with people or friends who can manage well. The excellent example does well, and perhaps you can get tips and tricks or learn a strategy from them. How they deal with their anger and anger. Because anyway, every human being has these feelings and there is nothing wrong with that, the crux is only how to deal with it constructively instead of destructively.